On the Road to 30 – Change is Coming

It’s September which means it’s my birthday month! Yes, I’m totally one of those people who celebrate the entire month because one day just isn’t enough.. especially when you’re turning 30! I’ve had such an amazing life leading into my thirties and while I’ve had my share of bad times in my twenties, the last few years definitely made up for it.

As you approach the last year before you hit a milestone birthday, you start to reflect on your life, you know? Your accomplishments, what you’re going to be doing in the next few years, your career path, etc.. I’ve been really lucky to cross off husband, house, and baby on my list, but something I have been thinking of a lot lately is my blog and what I’m doing with it and where I want it to go. I remember back when Tumblr was hot! (Shoutout to all my OG Tumblr friends). I used to blog so much back then about young love and heartache lol, and loved writing whatever was on my mind! When I resurfaced blogging again last year, I forgot why I even stopped to begin with.

In the last year of writing again and learning how to use social media as a platform to send a message, I hope I can stick to writing more often and creating content that my followers will enjoy, hence “Change is Coming.” With my one year blog-aversary approaching, I’m changing up my whole blog vibe and while every day I’m decoding motherhood, I also want to explore other outlets that I absolutely love; fashion & home decor.

I hope you’ll stick around and see what I have in store for you! Don’t worry, your dose of Rylee pictures will not be affected! ūüôā

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Why Taking a Step Back is Important.

I knew having a baby would change everything, but I didn’t realize how hard it would be trying to balance a career and a newborn baby. I totally get it now though. I’ve been working in the hotel industry for six years and more recently I’ve been a meeting planner for the last three years. I thought running down this path with a baby wouldn’t be as hard as I’ve found it to be the last year. I came back from maternity leave in October and I’ve seen things more clearly than I ever have.

I never used to mind the long days, working weekends, sometimes working 14 days straight, having two phones, etc.. but when I came back and was in a situation where I had to work 12-15 hour days and weekends, I began to dread it because I knew waiting for me at home was the sweetest little babe and I couldn’t do anything about it because I had to work. I didn’t have the typical 9am – 5pm Monday-Friday job that allowed me to be at home more and for months I was unhappy at work knowing that I could be doing something else that wouldn’t require so much attention and stress. But what could I really be doing if I wasn’t doing what I’m doing now??

I was at ends trying to figure out what I truly wanted; to be a #BossMom and juggle my life as a meeting planner and move up in the corporate world or be a more present mom who was able to come home after work less stressed and probably happier. That’s when my decision was easy – I value my family so much that I just can’t bear to sacrifice a few years of missing out on my daughter’s life just so I can move up the corporate ladder. I am completely fine taking a step back in my career if that means I can be there when my daughter needs me and when she hits all her big milestones. The thought of having to work as much as I’m working as a meeting planner is daunting to be honest.

I can’t say that it’s the best decision I’ve ever made because it is scary venturing into the unknown, but it’s the best decision for my family right now. I am so relieved and happy that I’ll be able to dedicate more time to Rylee, my husband, & myself. I’ll be working in a Plastic & Cosmetic Surgeon’s office where I’ll get to leave my work at work everyday and that is truly one of the best things to come!

 

Rylee Takes the East Coast; Our First Cross Country Vacation

Good Afternoon Loves! We just got back from our week-long family vacation to the East Coast. To say the least, it was quite an experience. Weeks leading up to the trip, I was already feeling anxious and my stress was a little more elevated than usual. I had been doing tons of research and asking friends and family for advice on how to travel with a baby for the first time and once it was time for takeoff, I felt ready.

We had taken Rylee on multiple road trips to our surrounding states, but never flying across the country. Here is a list of things I learned while traveling with a baby for the first time and some advice.

  • Plan your flight early in the morning so it coincides with their morning nap schedule. Rylee slept the whole flight going to NY and we planned our flight back to Vegas late at night so she would sleep the whole night. It worked for most of the flight, but she was definitely a lot more fussy during the boarding/takeoff process.
  • I had Rylee strapped in her baby carrier while we went through security and that was probably the best decision because it was so easy-going through security. I had my cellphone, boarding pass, and ID out so I could easily put them in the bin along with the diaper bag and my purse.
  • Snacks! Don’t forget the snacks! We gave Rylee Puffs anytime we felt her getting fussy and it worked.
  • I went a little overboard and made little baggies for the passengers that sat around us that consisted of ear plugs, airheads, lollipops, & Jolly Ranchers. Since it was Rylee’s first time flying, we didn’t know what to expect, but if she was fussy, at least the passengers would have a little goodie bag to know we weren’t intentionally trying to make their flight miserable!
  • Bring an arm pillow or some thing that will keep the baby comfortable. All we brought was a blanket and I wish we would’ve been more prepared.
  • Your carry-on means everything! I was able to pack all of Rylee’s essentials on my rollaway luggage – diapers, wipes travel drying kit, bottles, formula etc.. It was nice knowing that all her essentials would stay with us.

When we finally made it to the East Coast, I thought the stress would lessen, but it definitely didn’t! We had a jam-packed week of activities and I thought with everything going on, it would keep Rylee entertained, but we learned that her attention span was short-lived. After all, how exciting is Time Square for a baby? Along with trying to keep her busy, we learned that she had three molars coming in hot! How convenient right??? As if traveling isn’t stressful enough, add three molars and an extremely fussy baby to the mix.

We tried to make the most of it and stay positive during all the meltdowns, but it’s definitely tough. Below is a list of things I learned while taking her around the city and some advice for new parents that are planning a trip.

  • Have a game plan. A lot of our trip was based on spontaneity¬†which made it difficult to plan ahead. I had 5-6 bottles with me at all times beacause I didn’t know when we’d be able to get back to our hotel or how long we’d be gone for.
  • Have a comfortable baby carrier and stroller. We bought a travel stroller for the mere purpose we didn’t want to bring her big bulky one, but I’m so glad we ended up bringing it because she napped comfortably in her stroller when we rode the subways and cruised through the city. I don’t think it would’ve been the same had we brought the travel stroller.
  • Bring lots of wipes and hand sanitizer. I don’t know how many times I wiped Rylee’s hands because of how many times they touched the ground lol.
  • Buy disposable table mats for when you go to restaurants. I found these on Amazon and it was probably my favorite travel purchase! They stick directly on table and stick underneathe the table so when they’re in their high chair and try to put their mouth on the table, at least they’re gnawing on the table mat.
  • Rely on your significant other to help. As mom’s we’re just naturally inclined to take control of the baby and try to calm them when needed, but having a S/O who is so involved and tries to help as much as they can is seriously amazing. It helps when both the stress is on both parents and not just the moms.
  • Try and have a great time even if you’re feeling frustrated! I feel guilty for having a lot of frustrating moments during this trip which resulted in everyone being in a bad mood, but once you realize that there are somethings you can’t control, you just gotta roll with the punches and take it for what it is.

Once we finally made it back home, I was so happy! Regardless of the events that played a part in this trip, I think it’s safe to say that I’ll stick to ground transportation with Rylee for a little bit longer! We definitely loved the East Coast & all it’s beauty though – take a look at some of my favorite pictures!

Headwraps: Stevie J’s – Rylee loved them! They stayed on her head all day and they’re super comfy!

Rompers: Old Navy & PatPat

Off the Shoulder Rose Top: Angelique Leotards

Separation Anxiety, it’s a thing.

Happy Wednesday, loves! Wow, it has been some time hasn’t it? To say the least, the last two months have been extremely busy for me and I’m finally in a place where I have some time to get back into writing.

Our girl is nine months and she is all over the place! It’s so fun to see her personality coming out a little more each day. At her nine month checkup, her doctor expressed that at this age, babies tend to get separation anxiety from their parents and I’m definitely feeling it. She’s developed a sense of need to be around us or held by us. If we’re not in sight, she panics and cries looking for us.

Some helpful tips on how we’ve been dealing with separation anxiety include –

  • Arrange childcare with familiar faces. This helps so much when we leave for work because she is left with someone she is already comfortable with and knows. She also goes to this person willingly which is a great help when I need to pass her around for a few minutes.
  • Practice separation at home. Allow your baby to crawl or venture off in another room (safe, but unsupervised) where you are not in sight and give them a few minutes before going to get them. Also telling them that you’ll be right back gives them a sense of trust when you do come back for them. It reassures them that mommy and daddy will be back to get them.
  • Keep your goodbyes short and simple.¬†Once you leave for the day, leave. Coming back multiple times to say goodbye or you forgot something in the house makes your baby think that you’re coming back to get them.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my clingy little babe, but it can definitely be exhausting and make you feel frazzled, but remember it’s only temporary. Spend some extra uninterrupted time without your devices with your little one. Read them more books, play with them, or even take naps with them. We work so much that 80% of our days are not spent with our kids.. We need to remember that they’re only clingy because they love us. Reciprocate those feelings in return.

P.s.

Here’s a little update picture of Rylee!

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Recap – San Diego, CA

Happy Weekend, loves! This month has flown by extremely fast, hence, my lack of writing this month. I finally have some down time in between work, projects, reading, and of course raising Rylee. Our family did a quick weekend trip to San Diego, CA with our cousin & his girlfriend and it was to say the least, an interesting experience. We had a great time, but traveling is definitely not what it used to be.

It’s one thing to be stuck in a car with your husband and eight month old teething baby singing to Disney soundtracks for six hours, but it’s another thing when you’re also stuck in a car with a couple who doesn’t have kids. Granted they didn’t mind when Rylee had her occasional “Wrath of Rylee” tantrum, but I definitely felt the need to apologize on her behalf lol.

We stayed at the Marriott Marquis San Diego Marina and the Pier South Resort, Autograph Collection. Both hotels were absolutely stunning & I wish we lived by the water more and more. The best part of the trip was being able to see Rylee discover sand, the beach, and the pool for the first time! I’d never seen so much joy in her face as I did when she got to play in the water.

There were times when we disconnected from our fellow couple and unwound in our rooms or explored hotel grounds without them and I find it so funny because we all had different intentions for this trip. Yes, we all went as a group to spend time together and to get away from Vegas, but while they were off being super cute and in love, strolling down the pier, our little family of chaos was getting excited about the usage of swim diapers and Rylee cutting two top teeth! Oh, how times have changed! Regardless of what this trip was about, we all had a great time together!

A few tips to remember when traveling with a baby:

  1. Don’t forget dish soap to wash bottles! Silly me forgot to pack soap and had no way to wash Rylee’s bottles in the room.. FML right? Thankfully we got some delivered by the hotel staff!
  2. Download their favorite movie/show on the iPad before you leave or have Netflix of Hulu on your phone! This will help tremendously during your drive or during dinners to keep them occupied.
  3. It’s always better to over pack than under pack. My husband knows better not to question how many bags I bring on our weekend trips because he know’s he’ll lose if he tries to fight me haha #MomsAlwaysWin

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Review Wednesday – DockATot

Happy Wednesday, Loves! Today I’m sharing details about one of my favorite products to date; DockATot. When I first discovered the DockATot I fell in love. This all natural, 100% cotton multi-functional gem has made parenthood just a little easier. It’s perfect for co-sleeping parents and playtime/tummy time. I’m lucky to call myself a DockATot partner and experience this product first hand and share all the great things about it!

It comes in two sizes – The Deluxe which is for babies 0-8 months and the Grand (which Rylee has) is for babies 9-36 months.

Some of my favorite features of the DockATot include:

  • Interchangeable covers. They offers different covers and they’re all so adorable!
  • Transitions baby from parents bed to their own.
  • It’s easy to transport to & from grandparents houses or vacations.
  • It’s great for cuddling!

It’s been a few weeks since we’ve gotten our DockATot and Rylee loves it! She plays and sleeps so well in it that I have no doubt once we transition her into her big girl bed, it’ll be a smooth transition. I love that DockATot has two different sizes and can really grow with your baby.

The prices may intimidate you, but I promise it’s worth every penny and a really great investment! Head over to DockATot now and save yourself $10 off when you click this link!

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Disclosure: I received this product as part of a partnership with DockATot. All words and opinions are completely my own. 

 

Things People Don’t Tell You – Labor, Delivery, & Recovery

I was reflecting this past weekend as I was spending time with my little family and it dawned on me that my baby girl is going to be eight months in a few weeks! Seriously, where has the time gone? My husband and I always talk about wanting to have more kids or when the best time to start trying is and when I think about how hard these eight months have been, I think it’s safe to say that we won’t be trying for about another year or so lol. We love spoiling Rylee with love and attention and I’m just not ready for another one just yet!

It got me thinking about my pregnancy though and how great of a pregnancy I had until I hit my third trimester. For those of you who don’t know, I had a really difficult third trimester and had kidney issues (what the doctor had thought), which resulted in me having a tube inserted in my lower back and a drainage bag attached at my hip until I had to deliver. Super inconvenient and embarrassing, but then it brought me to my topic today; the sh*t no one tells you about labor, delivery, & recovery.

Labor:

  • Labor is nothing compared to how you see it happening in movies.
  • You feel extremely exposed and violated because of all the nurses that come in and out of your room to check on you every few hours to see how much you’ve dilated.
  • If you’re getting an epidural, you’re also getting a catheter down there. It’s really uncomfortable, but the good thing is, you won’t feel anything down. Downside is you won’t be able to get out of your bed until your baby has finally arrived!
  • You can’t eat when you’re in labor. I literally went 19 hours with no food or water and was miserable. Ice chips are your best friend!
  • There’s a lot of waiting around.
  • Contractions are painful! Take it from someone who had to go through four epidurals because the medicine kept wearing off. I felt every contraction and it was awful. At one point I was begging for a c-section because I couldn’t take the pain anymore.

Delivery:

  • You wanna talk about being exposed?? During delivery you are sprawled open with a light shining on your whoo-ha while not only your doctor, but 4-5 nurses are watching you push.
  • The doctors encourage your significant other to look because that’s your baby being born.
  • There’s a good chance you’ll poop on the table. Thank God it didn’t happen to me, but I’ve heard horror stories of that happening!
  • Once you’ve pushed out your 7 pound babe, you still have to deliver the placenta. All you want to do is have skin to skin with your baby or watch them being washed, but that’s not the case. Thankfully pushing out the placenta is quick.
  • There’s a good chance you’ll get stitches down there if you start to tear during delivery.
  • You will cry the first time you see your beautiful baby girl/boy.

Recovery:

  • The first time you gain feeling back to your legs is really weird. The nurses will be in and out of your delivery room to check on you.
  • You will have to be accompanied by a nurse the first time you get out of bed and go to the bathroom.
  • There is so much blood. SO. MUCH.
  • The first time you pee will feel so weird and a little painful.
  • Your stomach does not go back to normal.. I poked my stomach multiple times during my stay at the hospital and it was so jiggly and flabby, like jello.
  • Sitting, walking, getting in bed or in a car for the first time is going to be difficult. Make sure your significant other can help support you getting around.

Tips I Suggest:

  • Bring your own undies & pads post delivery. The ones they give you at the hospital are cheap and don’t work really well (in my opinion).
  • Wear flowy dresses postpartum. They’re convenient when having to use the restroom.
  • Most hospitals are pro-breastfeeding, but the honest truth is breastfeeding is extremely challenging for most women. If you choose to give your baby formula, don’t let anyone make you feel bad about not breastfeeding.
  • Give yourself credit! You had your baby in you for nine months. You are a rock star and a total badass.

Last but not least:

I know it sounds super scary and borderline stressful, but the truth is, I would go through all of this again if that meant I got to bring another beautiful soul into this world. Pregnancy and motherhood has changed me for the better. Although the experiences I had still bring back a lot of memories and feelings, I’m living my best life having a daughter that I can share this with one day.